Stop the blaming game in the relationships for any desperate couples
“How can we stop the blaming game for us especially in our relationship?” This is a new question that is popped up by one of us who have been facing it. I can feel the pain, the sorrow, the anxiety, the unhappiness, the fruitless effort that we have contributed for our relationship. Some of us who are at the age of the fifteen to thirty years old can feel the competitiveness and complication that we face in the relationship, whether is it very positive, negative, and neutral? How much effect does the relationship impact on us? It is really up to us and the individuals how we can handle the problems effectively and intelligently.
If you face the similar problems, I will encourage you not to give up easily. This is because I understand that there may have problems in and out for both of you in a relationship. Things may not run very well at times, nevertheless, you can not give up any hope, for there is a glimmer of hope awaiting you right at your front. Do always treasure and if possible, grab the opportunity that you can do so that when the time comes, you will know how much possible your relationship can be improved by both of you.
If there are a few occasions which you and your partner have been blaming one another for causing some freaking and stupid nonsense that bother you, you shall not get sad over it. That is because there are many methods for you to stop the blaming game especially in the relationship. This goes the same in the scenario given. Like for myself, I have been reminding myself not to commit any same mistakes that have been made for the past.
In the relationship, I have done so much so as to try and make her happy, but she refuses to acknowledge that. I have sacrificed all for him, and now he is showing his true colours. This is the game of blame. That not only kills a beautiful relationship but creates hatred between two lovers. Why those who were in deep love suddenly found that everything was wrong with each other and the relation? Let us look at a deep relationship. In such a relationship, everything is ours. It is neither yours nor mine. It is all ours. Even if one partner blunders, the other partner supports him/her. It is same with joy. Both experience the joy of each others achievements. The fissure in the ‘ours’ to ‘me and you’ gives rise to the beginning of the blame game.
When the love breaks and blames start going to and fro, the need is to stop and reflect. Has the relationship gone beyond repair? Is the relationship giving more pain than pleasure? Are the partners sticking to each other to find someone to blame for their failures? If all this is answered in yes, then the partners should talk about it and get help from a counsellor and decide to separate if that makes their life better.
Why do we blame somebody else? Sometimes the other person is responsible for what might have gone wrong, and sometimes, we find the other person an easy target to release our frustration. In a relationship that is nurturing, even if one partner has blundered, the other will support him/her. Rather than taking the accusing tone, it will be a tone of understanding and being together. This turns to accusations only after the relationship suffers a break. To understand blames, one should look at the relationship in deep and find out if the same blame would have been put in the beginning of the relationship. If not, what changed? There lays the clue to blame game.
In personal relationships, we are not supposed to punish the other person in any way for whatever fault. At the most, we have the freedom to move away if we find that our partner keeps on repeating destructive behaviour. We should either move away or come together again. To continue with the blame game and living together will not produce any result other than pain. Blames are not the disease but the symptom of the disease that is hurting your relationship.
Indeed, life is short. Don't let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.
I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.
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